(continued from definition of Oneness http://korytskyy.lviv.ua/en/?p=546)
Oneness is the emotion, resource energy flow, initiated by own wish, own intent, and stopped the same way by own wish and own intent. It is important that it is impossible to force a person out of oneness by any means, because no external or internal constraints or factors have power over emotion.
Oneness is very often confused with emotional state (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/emotional+state) of loneliness or solitude (Ukrainian одинокість, Russian одиночество). Loneliness is the state when one wants to fill in own surrounding space or own internal space with literally anything, and preferably, instantly: with things, person, people, illusions, work, child, marriage, household, hobby… Out of solitude many dysfunctions rise: kleptomania (when person steals literally everything and can’t stop), shop addiction (buying literally everything, “just for the process”, but actually to fill in own space), alcoholism (inclined towards impossibility of finding a partner or oneself in this world), narcomania (“this world has left me”), and many, many others. It is important that solitude can’t be stopped by own wish or own intent.
As well, people who know a bit about esotericism or psychology are trying to substitute the emotion of oneness with a term “selfhood”, known by many from Karl Jung’s works, thus showing ignorance in definition and substituting emotion to archetypical notion, which was defined to unite various subsystems of personality. The selfhood is considered as opposing to the notion of Ego, especially in its clinical appearances. (http://www.members.shaw.ca/jgfriesen/Definitions/Ego.html), and fits into a series of terms “person”, “personality”, “individual”, “individuality” (http://int.michaelroads.org/identity-personality-individuality/).
Those, who are denying oneness as emotion, are comparing it with hermitry. Hermitry is a denial of socialization, a wish to withdraw from mundane life by maximum or even full delimitation of connections with other people, which leads sometimes even to the unforced down-shifting (denial of modern comfort in favor of “natural” or cheaper conditions).
One more term which is used to “explain” oneness is self-sufficiency. Although self-sufficiency is a dual notion with healthy and problem components, the root of self-sufficiency is in arrogance. Self-sufficiency is mostly flat refusal of both physical help (with phrases like “I can do it myself”) and moral help (using “I can handle it myself”). Some interesting thoughts you can find in “Cracking the Foundational Myths: Independence, Autonomy, and Self-Sufficiency” by Martha Albertson Fineman (http://digitalcommons.wcl.american.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1071&context=jgspl).
Oneness is a freedom from need to receive energy from other live objects.